Notes from the Dating Trenches
Sharing stories and advice on dating and relationships


One step at a time
I’m a person who likes to feel in control. I like having checklists, knowing what to do in a situation, and feeling like things are falling into place in the timeframe that I want. But this isn’t u...

Lookin? for love in all the wrong places
I admit, I have sucked at love. While I’m happily married now, it didn’t come easy. In fact, my friends would often get together and analyze everything I was doing wrong in order to “help” me. Yes,...

Are you a cynical dater?
I wrote a post a while back about gold-diggers, which is still getting a lot more hits on my blog than any post since. In it, I asked the question: is it wrong for successful women to want men with...

Sedona, deconstructed.
I spent the weekend in Sedona AZ, a strange and beautiful place (mostly catering to rich ex-hippies) where you can get a picture taken of your aura every couple of blocks. For the record, I did not...

Get ready for summer with Jillian Michaels and Gaiam TV
I have a confession to make. I love starting exercise programs. I’ve tried Yoga, Pilates, Zumba, and Flamenco dance classes (among some more embarrassing trendy classes in recent years). I’ve done ...